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The Grass is Greener on the Other Side


Andrew

This is re posted.


Andrew Keller

Every morning, Larry and I dig into a form or idea that has caught our eye. Our hope is that our chat inspires you to never stop thinking and possibly challenges you in a new way. If you'd like to help support the show, please visit patreon.com slash reposted. Thank you for stopping by. Larry, we're about a seven hour drive away. And I don't know if you felt that this morning. But I've been judging you and wondering about you. That's what makes me think about you. The grass is always greener. On the other side, I have a little bit to say about it. And I'm really curious what you have to say, I think it's an interesting paradigm, it's generally like I think I advise for is a negative way like don't don't pined for something you can't have. But I mean, it can be positive for your career. So I saw a study from the Bureau of Labor Statistics from 2015. people between the ages of 18 and 50, will have an average of 12 jobs, which like maybe getting more jobs with the New World Order is better, like the way to get promotion is better. But if you're married, the grass is always greener leads to a 40 to 50% divorce rate in the US. I was judging you, because I don't think you subscribe to this. I think you just do what you want to do and move forward. But I'm curious what you think.


Larry

Well, I was raised in sort of a like evangelical kind of Christian home type thing. And I feel like evangelical Christian type people are always saying, eventually life will be good. If you get to heaven. If you do something, eventually, as I become a grown adult, I have come to realize the closest you can get to like God, the universe, spirit, whatever you want to call it, is if you're completely present in the moment that you're in, we talked about this all time, like you're not taking photos of something you're actually enjoying the moment. That is the grass is not greener, you're just completely content. And I see that in my own life when I'm in the moment, and not looking at my phone. That is a beautiful moment. But I did also think, Hey, listen, this phrase comes from shepherds walking around green areas going like, hey, looks green over there. I should take my sheep over there. Because maybe they could get foot fed better. And then they get there. And it's not but you got to go try sometimes, right?


Andrew Keller

Yeah, I think you do have to go try because I agree with you that there is peace and stillness and enjoying what you're doing. But if you're working in a job that you hate, or you're in a relationship that you hate, like it, I think you have to think about what what other things might be as opposed to accepting the status quo, I was thinking about the guy that I worked with, it hates his job and still works at that same company, like making moves is important. But like, you have to understand yourself in that, like, Am I always trying to make a move? Like I had a friend that got married? And it was like, they were dating? When are we gonna get married? Or when are we gonna move in together? We're gonna get married, we're going to buy a house, where do you have kids? And like, once they hit all those milestones, there was like, not a new thing. And she's like, Alright, I'm out. And so like, that's a certain type of person. And there's also the, I'm not ready to make a move yet type of person. So I think it's, I think it's a good thing to, to see what's out there and understand it, but also not move just to make a move.


Larry

I think jobs and marriage are two great examples. And here's why I would say, kind of not pushing back, but different ideas of that. Were you ever fully in the job in the marriage to begin with, like, some people go to a job and they got one foot out the door from get go? So then he never really gave it a chance to begin with? And so you were always looking to get out? Same with marriage. So there's my idea like, mate, did you fully do the job? And then Oh, man, I'm not good for this. And then you have to leave?


Andrew Keller

Yeah, there's also the society part of it to the keeping up with the Joneses. where it's like, well, this person has this and like, how do I get to their happiness, and it's not all the same. It's not prescribed for you. So seeing that your friend? Well, not even necessarily money or material things, but like, hey, my friend has five kids, and they're really happy. Should I have five kids? Or maybe not? So I think it's, I like looking out and observing whatever absorbing whatever I see and then processing it through my filter, as opposed to just like, go get this.


Larry

We talked about a reasonably like it's the if I just get this syndrome, then I'll be happy. Like I heard this. I forget what the coach's name was, but he was like, I'd always been told I gotta win this championship to be a good good bowl that I wanted. And the next day I was the exact same person I and also we heard that interview or I heard an interview with Tim Ferriss. We listened to his podcast, and he was saying, Be careful of what you actually want because he became famous. He always wanted to be famous the next day. He had someone show up at his door and want to kill him. Quick. If you're famous. You have all sorts of other problems that come with that. I'm in media. I thought I was gonna be somebody that I've always thought I was gonna be somebody, but I'm not anybody. And I need to just be thankful that I don't have anybody shown on my board my door trying to kill me.


Andrew Keller

Yeah, I mean, entertainment is a definitely a good grass is always greener because you're like, oh, if I just get to be on this TV show, or if I get to produce this or whatever, and I would say 99% of the people who are famous that I've heard talk about it say they miss their anonymity, the only person that I have heard not say that is Rob Lowe. Rob Lowe is like anytime there's a camera I'm showing up, because I love being in front of the camera. So I think that's kind of funny. But yeah, it's like careful what you wish for.


Larry

I love though the literal meaning of this quote, The grass is greener on the other side, like from your neighbor, you're sitting on your lawn, you're looking down, and you're seeing the dirt and the grass. But if you're looking across the street at a 30 or 45 degree angle, your neighbor's lawn looks greener than yours. Because you're at a different angle. It just looks greener, it's not actually greener. So it's always about the perspective of where you're looking at something.


Andrew Keller

Even if it is greener, I was doing a little bit of research, I found some It was like a agriculture website. It was like basically you go over to help your neighbor out. And you're like, you find weeds. weeds are green, too. So from a distance, it might look like lush grass, but you got weeds in there. So it's anyway, I just I want to explore this because I view you as someone who doesn't subscribe to them and sounds like maybe you don't know,


Larry

but I really with you, you know, you can't just be miserable forever lucky. But I mean, have you fully invested in your situation? And then can you move on? I don't know. Yeah,


Andrew Keller

well, if you're ready to move on, please reach out. You can find us at repost the podcast on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. I'm Andrew Keller for the eyebrows. Thanks for stopping by.



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