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Love your Enemies, for they tell you your Faults.


Andrew

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Andrew Keller

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Larry

I'm sort of thinking and I every time I see this that I'm proven wrong, we've not had a Benjamin Franklin quote yet on the reposted, but I'm sure we have. But in my gut, I was like, we got to go to Benjamin Franklin. So I grabbed this one today. Love your enemies, for they tell you your faults. I immediately pick this one that as we wait a minute, I don't have any enemies. And then I was like, wait a minute, I do have some Nemesis and some enemies. Do you have any enemies, true natural enemies?


Andrew Keller

I mean, I guess it depends on how you define enemies. There's probably there's definitely people that don't like me. But I don't know if that. I think


Unknown Speaker

that doesn't qualify my book. Right?


Andrew Keller

I think an enemy is a waste of energy. Because it's like some I mean, maybe if you work at a company and you become CEO, yes, you and the CFO are gunning for that position, they could become your enemy. But for with my day to day life, I don't think I really have one.


Larry

That's the By the way, that example is exactly what I was thinking like, you're in the business track of something, you're trying to outmaneuver political for a job or whatever it might be, that would be like your enemy. And that's the epitome of this quote, you want to keep them kind of close. So they could tell you some things about yourself.


Andrew Keller

I haven't heard I haven't seen this personally. But I've heard kind of the equivalent maybe an acting is you start going out for the same roles as other people, and then they kind of become your silent nemesis. But I haven't had enough success to deal with that yet. But I don't know if the way he's defining enemies in this if it necessarily applies, because if they're your enemy, they actively want bad for you. So they're not going to tell you what I mean, you have to look at that with a heavy filter, I think, keep people close that are willing to tell you the truth is maybe more of what I would subscribe to.


Larry

Yeah, I mean, I, your enemy would not tell you the truth. They don't want you to learn anything. Although I will say this, people that I don't like, typically speaking, I don't like them. I will ask them a bunch of questions. And I tell them nothing. Like, most of the time I let them talk about themselves, because I don't want them to know anything about me.


Andrew Keller

or so. So maybe it sounds like that you do have enemies. Because if you feel that way about people that it's kind of like an active, you're actively guarding yourself. I mean, it could be a personality thing on your part. But Woody, what do you think about that?


Larry

No, it's for sure. A total thing. And, by the way, I don't know. Like, did you use the word Nemesis? I don't have any enemies. But I have nemesis, my number one net like, anybody that knows me knows my nemesis. This is guy. He's an older guy. He's like 30 years old, and he really successful. And one time he stands up at church, we're having these major problems with a pastor at church, right? And he stands up and says to the whole church, he goes, Hey, everybody, I own multiple properties. So I can't be here every Sunday morning. But let me give him like he literally that's how he started his conversation. I have multiple properties. I can't be like, dude, shut up, sit out.


Andrew Keller

Alright, if we're gonna tell church stories, this has nothing to do with a nemesis. But I went to that same church right? When I moved to San Francisco, my my rent tripled. My square footage got cut by a third. I go to church, the first or second week I'm there and the pastor gets up and says, first thing he says, I was listening to an aria in my study.


Unknown Speaker

I was like, I can't


Unknown Speaker

know. Anything you say from here is unrelatable.


Larry

Well, technically, we're speaking about two different churches because I know who you're talking about. And I'm talking about a different thing. But I understand like, but when people say that, they instantly repel you. Which brings us back to this quote, like, an enemy. In theory is someone you don't want anything. I don't want to be around that person what so ever.


Andrew Keller

I think the way to turn this in on me is understand why people don't like you. And I think that's going to give you insight into if you want to change or not like if people don't want I mean, maybe you would be helping this person, but they're like, Hey, stop talking about your multiple properties. But I know something about myself that I haven't been able to fix, but I'm aware of it that I have resting bitchface. And so that's like a thing that turns people off about me and I understand it and I can't always control it. But understanding what people don't like about you is is probably a helpful exercise.


Larry

Did someone that doesn't like you tell you that.


Andrew Keller

People that like me and people that don't like me, oh, it told me that so it's kind of across the board.


Larry

You know, my thing is though, can you can you truly learn more about yourself from people that are the polar opposite of you?


Andrew Keller

Yeah, probably because You start getting confirmation bias if you surround yourself with people that have similar views, or even if they don't, they don't challenge your views. I mean always makes me think of like when directors or writers become more successful, their later movies just get greenlit and they don't have to push. They don't have to fight an uphill battle. So it's like, oh, that's a great idea. Nothing is challenged and you can fall into a creative rut by being challenged. I think being challenged is always a good thing.


Larry

No, I totally think that's true. And like for me I hate being like around really evangelical churchy people these days, I they just I want to throw them into a hot pit of fire. So we call that hell. But anyways, but I feel like it's good to be saying, by the way, politically, like I live in San Francisco, so I definitely want more conservative people in my life. Because I feel like I'm only around liberal people.


Andrew Keller

Yeah, I mean, we talked about this last summer. I mean, it comes up often, but it's like, especially now it's easy to be like this is what my thought is I'm going to Google someone that agrees with me and then it fuels me and then you we start getting into tribals, right we're but it's like us versus them. And anyone I read something recently, I don't have the stat in front of me but like more people vote for not the opponent then what they like about their now already, so it's like I rather have not Gavin Newsome than whatever. And I don't know if that's No, I do know, that's not the way to successfully navigate your life.


Larry

Our family had an enemy collective eat the five people in our family, we lived above a single old lady for 13 years. And she hated that she lived below us because we were loud and done it. And she would give us dirty looks and banging on the windows, anything but direct communication of like, Hey, can you guys quiet down which we would have, but she was like the Olson enemy. And I was like, wow, I just didn't want to be her around. And I wondered what we learned from that. And what I think we learned was that we're just really loud people. Maybe we could tone it down a little.


Andrew Keller

Yeah, I mean, also with that type of a thing. I've learned that when you confront issues head on, people are either going to engage with you and you're going to move past that you're going to be fine or they're not going to engage it and then at that point, it's on them. Kind of


Larry

that's exactly it. That's you you will quickly learn she was not going to be rational about this problem. They were like well, there's nothing you could do.


Andrew Keller

Yeah, so I guess maybe the the takeaway is if someone pisses you off, just get in their face and tell them exactly what I find starting sentences with you know what your problem is, is generally a good way to operate


Larry

complicit one more church story cuz we're on another person set up a church wanted said, Listen, my house is really big, and I don't have time to clean it all. So I can get some help. That's literally what she said in church


Andrew Keller

saying that they wanted someone to volunteer.


Larry

Hey, here's our prayer house is really big concern is that we just don't have time to clean it all.


Andrew Keller

Well, I had a guy I went to junior high with I asked to borrow $1 one time and he gave me $8 because the ones were crowding his wallet. My hundreds are too big for my wallet. That's the problem prey for these poor poor people. If you liked the show, please share with a friend if you want to follow us on social media uveitis at reposting podcast on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. I'm Andrew Keller for the evangelical loser.



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