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If you've never had bad date... you are the bad date.


Andrew

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Unknown Speaker

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Andrew

Today, we came across a quote from friend of the show Gina grad. She said, if you've never had a bad date, you are the bad day. I think this is just across the board. People have a lack of self awareness. If you've never been at fault for any road rage and traffic, if it's never been your fault with a teacher, you're not aware of what you're doing. You got married. You've been married for a while now. But do you remember any bad date stories? Or were you always a peach?


Larry

I am going to fundamentally disagree with Mrs. grad. I was a great date, every single time. It was never a bad day now one in history of my life. And I wasn't the bad date. I never was a bad deed ever.


Unknown Speaker

So it's a lack of awareness on your part, like on a bad date. And we're


Larry

absolutely yes, I wouldn't want to be your fault. I definitely was on a bad day. Like we'd go on a date and the woman would take one look at me and she would just turn stone cold and they were horrible dates. So that happened to me.


Unknown Speaker

Because she was fundamentally not a good person. And she didn't.


Larry

She like took a look at me was like no, that dude's ugly. I'm just gonna freeze him out all night. That happened multiple times. But there was never a time that I saw someone who was like, this is gonna suck. I'm gonna mail it in. I never never mailed it in. I always was like, you know, it's always fun questions. Never.


Unknown Speaker

I guess I don't have to come back to that because I wasn't there. But


Larry

I once got set up. A friend of mine said, hey, go out with this woman. She was a friend of Hizbollah. We went out I proceeded to ask her I went full phil donahue. I proceeded to ask her and hours with the questions. She over an hour did not have one iota to ever go like, Hey, tell me something about yourself. We just met, I made her talk about herself for an hour straight.


Unknown Speaker

Is it possible? She doesn't like talking about herself for an hour straight? And she just wanted to sit there and silence Oh, by the way, very bad day.


Larry

Only could you know what, that's a plausible thing. But she talked about herself for an hour. And never once said, Hey, tell me about yourself. And you know what, because I didn't want ever see her again. I was like, I was totally fine. Let her talk about herself. At the end of the day. I was like, hey, thanks. So it's a great time and I left?


Andrew

Well, I think some of it, maybe it's not you being a bad date, but some of it is on you. Like I've had dates that didn't go well. And no, no, you're everyone in the world would love you. If it wasn't for them.


Larry

I understand exactly what Gina is talking about this, I understand the premise that you're giving. But I never mailed in a date, I always went with a good attitude, even though I didn't like this person. Because my theory like my theory about bad date, if you already know that


Unknown Speaker

you don't like them?


Larry

Well, because it's just there. There was no attraction, there was no tracks. Whoa, that makes you a bad data that attracted this person. It's a bad date.


Andrew

I mean, I guess it depends on how you want to look at it. I like to say, well, maybe I could improve in this area. And what you're telling me is, I was great. There's nothing better I could do. It's all on them.


Larry

No, that's not exactly what I'm saying. Oh, you're exaggerating a little bit. My point was like, I always brought my game to try to talk and have a good time. I never was like, I feel like what Gina was saying, like sometimes you go out, and you immediately don't feel the connection and you kind of go sour puss, and you kind of mail it in?


Andrew

Well, I'm not saying you did this. But I mean an example of like talking about yourself, like I could talk about myself for an hour and have a great time and I would be the bad date. And my take on this is more of lack of self awareness. But I've written in a car with you before changing from dating, and you flash your lights at people, you're pretty aggressive. Have you ever been in a situation be like, Oh, I did the wrong thing. And that person deserved to honk at me?


Larry

For sure for sure. For sure. All I'm saying is though, part of my litmus test for a date was if I went on a date with a woman, and she talked about herself for an hour straight and never went like hey, then I was like, Oh, this is not the right one for me. Because anybody that ever wanted, like a conversation is like you talk for a little bit. Someone else talks you talk that's like a it's a give and take and if a woman was going to talk for an hour straight and not take a breath as I did, this dates over and one.


Andrew

So what's your advice to people that are dating You have three people in your family that theoretically will go on dates. And if they come home and say, that was not a good day, that person I went out with sucked. Are you gonna say, yeah, it was all them, there's nothing you can change.


Larry

I my advice will always be like a go give every person a fair shot, let them try try to have a good conversation, see what makes the other person tick. But like, I feel like the crux of what Gina was saying is like, like going with a bad attitude, right? If you go to a day with a bad attitude, that's how the, you know, and, and by the way, for the record, dog might have died. Like, I feel like your point is like, you got to give someone a second pass? Like, I probably should. No,


Andrew

I don't think you necessarily have to give someone a second pass. But if it doesn't go, Well, I think you should be introspective on what you could have done differently. I think, I mean, there's so many different things can happen on a date, and so many different, as you pointed out, someone's dog could die, they could have just gotten out of relationship, and there's first date they've ever been on and things that are out of your control are gonna make it not a good day. But to me, this is more of like, looking within yourself being like, well, I could have, I could have put on a nicer shirt, I could have spent more time picking out wherever we were going to go. That's more for me is like, look at what you could have done better and use it as a learning experience. And I see your point as well. But that's how I take this


Larry

but taking it from you. Here's how I'll say I could have done better. I feel like every date that I when I was dating, I always wanted to go on a date to get to know someone right? And so I would ask a lot of questions, try to get to know him. And maybe I did that too much. Maybe you should have just I should have just gone and enjoyed the moment the movie, whatever we were doing, and not been so maybe aggressive on the getting to know you and just enjoyed the experience a little bit more. So I think that's one way I probably did it wrong.


Unknown Speaker

Have you had any bad dates as a married person? I went on a date with my wife last Friday and it was a wonderful. Does it carry over into marriage? Is it always her?


Larry

You're a newlywed. You're a newlywed newlywed.


Unknown Speaker

So we don't want to answer that. No, no,


Larry

I mean, all we go on all dates all the time, because I feel like the getting to know but I feel like that's the best part of like dating is right getting to know someone. And some you know that you get it. It's a new person. It's an a universal law. That's great. And now I'm an old fart has been married forever.


Andrew

I think that's interesting, because I don't think dating is necessarily getting to know someone. I think that's a side of side effect of it. I think it's a testing to see your compatibility with them in different situations. And it's not. Because I've gotten to know you really well. And I don't want to be in a romantic relationship with you. But I enjoyed getting to know you. Me a little bit of semantics. But I think overall I think dating is a little bit different for how I approached it.


Larry

No, and I agree and I think I could have used a little bit of I should have just let the moment be a little bit more and I was probably too pushing on the aggressive part. So I definitely feel like respect. introspective Larry's like you know what, book, by the way, I found the gal that I was supposed to marry so maybe I did it right after all,


Unknown Speaker

I don't know maybe well from from two guys who aren't dating anymore. If you have any questions please reach out. Find us at repost a podcast on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. I'm Andrew Keller for Casanova Larry's and thanks for stopping by


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