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Humans weren’t made to hold fast to the present all the time.


Andrew

This is re posted.


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Larry

All right, Andrew, you know, too much of anything is not good for you. For instance, like if they jam a hose down your mouth with air, your lungs probably wouldn't be able to take in all the air. We used to play the card game hearts for water. You know, you get it you get it of hearts, you get you have to drink a lot of water. We did that until we realize some guy actually drowned playing hearts for water because he drank too much water. eat too much. You drink too much all that good for you. During the pandemic. We've all hopefully be doing a little introspection like, do I like my job? My wife did introspection. She hated all the colors and walls in our apartment. So she repainted everything in our house, we've all been thinking. Which brings us to an article in the LA Times. Why being introspective is a double edged sword. Some scientists have theorized what makes humans different than anything else on our planet is our ability for introspection. Here's our quote, humans weren't made to hold fast to the present all the time. That's just not what our brains evolved to do. But what happens when you think about all the bad things or good things in your life too much? Well, you start feeling those feelings all over again, and you get anxiety do you do? How often are you introspective about your life? Andrew,


Andrew

I would say about 25% of the time, I've been thinking about this all morning, and I can't figure it out. And what I've kind of come up with is that it depends on who you are, how much you should take this to heart, I mean, know who you are, know what you want, or whatever. Like, I probably need a different amount of introspection than you do. And you probably need a different amount than your wife does. And so on and so on. I mean, this is a good thing to point out, be aware of how much like thinking about stuff can hold you up. Because there's the argument that if you just dwell on something, you'll never move forward. But if you're always grinding, you never take time to enjoy what you're doing. So I guess that's exactly what the saying it's a double edged sword, and different personality types, different enneagram types or whatever you want to define it as are going to handle these things differently.


Larry

Yeah, and I feel like that's, that's a great answer. And I think you need enough introspection to know who you are we talking about this all the time told Bengals were like, do you know that you're the person that's late all the time? So if you don't know that you've done no introspection on your life that Oh, I'm always late. Do I just enough to know who you really are?


Andrew

Yeah, I guess maybe the thing is, the first thing you do when you become introspective is check in and say, am I happy? And if you're happy, then you're doing things, right. And if you're not happy, is it? Is it because I'm dwelling on? I'm not doing enough with my life? Or I'm doing too much with my life? And then that's kind of where you go from that. I mean, do you see that difference between you and Karen? Like, I'm guessing you didn't have a preference on the wall colors? Were you dwelling on that? Like what? How does that dynamic work?


Larry

Yeah, we definitely have a way different view of looking at things I don't really like we talked about, I don't care about details, the color of the walls do not bother me, they absolutely bother my wife. So I wasn't even looking at those details. I tend to take a way 5000 foot view, look at most things by life, childhood, everything. Karen takes a very detailed and so we definitely have to use that to balance each other out that works in introspection for both of us.


Andrew

Yeah, I think one of the things that this article was talking about was live in the moment. And that's kind of become the mantra of our right now be like, you are a special snowflake. No one's better than you. You have seize the day. And I don't think that's the answer, either. I think that would maybe that advice should be given to a very small amount of people who just work all the time and don't take time to enjoy it. I think our culture, at least in the United States is such that people want instant gratification, myself included.


Larry

Yeah, it's interesting when they talk about this, in this article, they talk about you know, when you do a little introspection, and you do feel that anxiety coming, they try to give us a couple of tips of things that kind of help you out of this. And one of them that I really liked was self talk, do a little self talk. I heard this thing the other day. I forget where I heard it. But when you see your when you feel your brain sort of going down the rabbit hole and not being able to loop yourself out of negative talk. They say give yourself a nickname and start calling yourself that certain like so my nickname for myself is wrench. So when I feel myself spiral spiraling on something that I can't get on my head, I'm like, Hey wrench, give it a rest. And that just a it makes me laugh. And be it somehow gives me a little self talk to give myself a little perspective. To stop circling the drain, and I mean, is it something you


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say out loud? Or is it just like,


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sometimes who's you talk


Larry

to sometimes I physically said it out loud, but it's normally just a little mental thing. And they're like, hey, wrench, chill out, dude.


Andrew

Yeah, I mean, I guess the introspection is something that I, I tried to do, but it's not. I think at the end of the day, if you just spend your time thinking, you're not going to get anything done. And that kind of goes against what I'm saying. And the


Larry

other thing about introspection, which this article talks about, is talking to someone else about it, I don't really think you can be truly introspective on your own. I think you actually have to do that in a tribe you need someone else to, because someone else has a different perspective on your situation. So that begs the question, does anybody know you well enough that it can be introspective in your life. And they talked about this in the article, you don't want someone who's just going to validate what you're feeling, but give you a different angle on what you're feeling. So you once again have to get out of that negative cycle as you head down the drain.


Andrew

Yeah, it's kind of the objective perspective and kind of why people see psychiatrists because they're a third party. Yeah. The point that they're making in this article is that don't just go and vent because it feels good to vent and maybe you can enhance your relationship with the person you're venting to, but the more like details you give them, the more that like you're telling them to be on your side, like, you might be better off stopping a stranger on the street being like, Hey, I'm having this problem. What do you think? Maybe not in San Francisco, but I feel like we talked about that, you know, flag people down,


Larry

don't flag anybody down to the tenderloin, a couple of the other ones when you're going down the rabbit hole that they mentioned, performing rituals, which I think is great, like do you have a ritual in your life that sort of resets you some people use meditation, I go out to the front step of my little apartment and stare at the clouds The other one is I love this increasing your exposure to green spaces. We talk about john Muir a lot like going to the mountains of nature, sort of just reset your peripheral view and helps you kind of reset


Andrew

yeah also and then not comparing yourself to other people probably helps to be an introspective in your you have the static of this person's more successful this person's doing that that hits me a lot just in every aspect of what I'm doing with acting or like well, this person that every good actor This podcast is very good. Larry's better looking than me and it's not true. You just have to hit reset and and know who you are. introspective is a positive thing, but it can be too much of anything. I want to circle back to the beginning. What is hearts for water? I've never heard of that.


Larry

So you know the game heart card game hearts. Yeah. Every 20 points you get, you're losing, you have to drink a glass of water. So if you get to the end that's end up being like 10 glasses of water. And the other rule is that you can't get up to pee. So if you want to get up to pee, you got to drink another glass of water. So and we started in Davis because the water is really bad in Davis. And so he was like just pounding brown water.


Unknown Speaker

That sounds gross. Well, if you want to shoot the moon, please reach out. You can find us at repost and podcast on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. I'm Andrew Keller for the queen of spades. Sam, thanks for stopping by.


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